Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Gone fishin'...

My thoughts and experiences lately have been pretty focused on dating and relationships. When Katie and I got home from the first part of, what I'm sure will be, many more journeys I randomly signed up for an account on Plenty of Fish; the online dating site....the free online dating site.

I really had no idea what to expect from this site. It's kind of scary putting up a profile of you for millions of people to see, let alone read about who you are and what you're looking for. I just knew I had to be myself.

I think I've got a pretty intense profile. I think I'm a pretty intense person when it comes to what I'm looking for and who I am. For the first time in my life I actually feel like I'm beginning to understand myself...even if it's just the start! I was a little worried about guys getting bored with having to read my profile and then I realized if that was the case, they were looking for another woman anyway. Judging by the messages I was getting, guys liked my profile and some found it inspiring, intriguing, a pleasant change from all the others, which led me to believe that I must have done something right. Of course there's always a few sleezey guys who message some generic sentence that makes me laugh and gag and hit delete almost instantly.

But lately I've been enjoying and appreciating the effort, or lack of, that people have put into writing their profiles and selecting their pictures. I was seeing a guy from the site for a little while so I spent a good 3 or 4 weeks away from POF as it's commonly referred to :P . So upon my return I decided just to go with the flow.

Tonight I decided to click on profiles with guys who had the biggest smiles! I want a guy who's got a wicked smile! What can I say?! I found some interesting ones! From photos with guns to cars, to bikes of all sorts, to snowboards and even creepy self-portraits in the bathroom mirrors... :{ it's all there! And every guy is laid back or easy going, happy to go out with friends and party or stay in and watch a movie, loves the outdoors and travelling, into biking and sports. I've seen UFC in nearly every profile I've looked at. There's also a tonne of creative types too who are right into their music or art or cooking. Others are writing or doing some form of design work. Like social media, this site gives you a glimpse, be it small, into other peoples lives. I've definitely concluded that guys aren't picky about what they do. Most of them want to make us women happy and they definitely want us to be upfront and honest with them. "No games!" makes most guys profiles.... I think games are just our way of getting around the fact that we are really looking for someone else and are scared to admit it and voice it for fear of someone getting hurt.

I often wonder though...with the exception of a few...do guys really know what they want or are they just as undecided as most girls? Or better yet, is it a reality that we are unsure of what we want or is that just a game we play with ourselves to keep us safe from risking committment and broken hearts? I've been on both sides of the fence and I'm staying on the risk taking side...there's more to gain....how about you?

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